Women’s Equality or Safety first?

hqdefaultMy-Choice-Deepika-Padukone-Whats-In-a-Name-Creatives Patricia Arquette demanded wage equality in USA and we have Farhan Akhtar debating on women’s rights in “Dil Dhadakne Do”. Deepika Padukone, along with 99 women from varying walks of life, came together to feature in “My Choice” video presented by Vogue which received more of flak from our nation’s social masterminds, than a genuine applause. Amidst this staccato of opinions, a 41 year old homemaker like me, witnesses such furors on national & international media, and ends up asking herself, ” When to begin.. From where?”. ” Equal Rights or Safety first?”. I have yet to come across one genuine gentleman who provides domestic or social respect to a simple or an extraordinary women. I feel safe though,as i am blessed to have a father, a brother, a husband & a son who are protective in their own ways but i am distraught to admit that their reason to act so has boundaries. Their bravery is visible only for a daughter, a sister, a wife or a mother. Close friends & relatives are secondary as well. I attend social gatherings and come across various scenarios where a woman’s safety is at risk. Certain young, naive, vulnerable women are struggling to fit in their roles of a companion/partners to strong yet fragile men, who fall prey to over consumption of alcohol and deviate from their sense of responsibility. My husband or my brother will not initiate to alert a man from over-drinking when he has to return home with his companion driving a vehicle or by a cab which can jeopardize any woman’s welfare, for a simple reason that the concerned woman is not his wife or his sister or daughter. It’s a closed circle as that woman is left on her own without her own father or brother. That is the agony of being a woman today. Apart from award winning speeches & celebrity outcries on woman’s rights, being a woman, what will i achieve with a grant of equality when i have to struggle & fight to reach home safe? Demanding a New Age with a revolution brought forth by ” Right to chose” & ” Right to think & act separate from social norms”….. Is my own daughter physically & mentally strong enough to enter her safety zone after her partner has abandoned her for liquor at past midnight? I don’t want Equality, instead i beg each & every woman to a start a chain to break this circle, which defines our duties when it comes to supporting women. To teach their sons to help all as their mind and physique permits to. To consider all women alike & vulnerable to inappropriate circumstances. It might take a million mothers to produce a 100 such men who take lesser than an instinct to alert a friend, colleague or a relative when they are out of their respective sense of responsibility, who might be compassionate & kind enough to arrange for that very helpless woman to reach her home safe. But i must add, these men will surely not be granted an authority to allot any certificate of approval to any woman which begins with ” You can..”. They will earn a respect in turn for being a true gentleman, A man who doesn’t grant equality. A man who holds his woman’s hand to walk along with her. I await their arrival. I pray that my own son…………….is one of them.


  1. Gagan Rathi · June 13, 2015

    Congrats On your first blog. You have chosen a very pertinent topic to our times. A very relevant message to all women to groom their sons and make true gentlemen out of them. Hope you succeed in your endeavour. All the best and happy blogging.

    Liked by 1 person

    • poojarathi74 · June 13, 2015

      I aspire for an honest contribution from a gentleman like you as well.


  2. sevenbigstars · June 14, 2015

    Very well written Pooja Massi!

    Liked by 1 person

    • poojarathi74 · June 14, 2015

      Thank you so much my dear.I am honored that my immediate next generation takes out time for using the internet to read other peoples written work. I am a novice in this field but your viewership has encouraged me.


  3. Sonu shergill · June 14, 2015

    Very thought provoking pooja. I’m impressed woman. I think that it is imperative that we inculcate good moral values in our sons that they actually become good gentlemen and not just appear to be one. Respecting women -all women – not just mothers and daughters etc and not having different standards is very important. Again the fathers have a very important role to play in shaping their sons attitude and have to set a benchmark. They can’t shirk that responsibility if our sons have to really become gentlemen

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    • poojarathi74 · June 14, 2015

      We need Gentlewomen as well. Let’s teach our daughters the same.


  4. Meenal · July 4, 2015

    Very well said.keep it up.!


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